Jane 0 Comments. Many highly sensitive women and men have challenges setting boundaries. They often deny their own needs to meet the needs of others and end up being people-pleasers. He indicates this process goes through three stages. If they are not happy, we feel as though we need to do something about it. As Marshall jokingly indicates —. Therefore, our actions are fulfilling to us and the other people who receive our effort.

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Many emotionally sensitive or excitable folks tend to be people pleasers. We may start out denying our own needs to meet the needs of others. Simply put, we start by blaming ourselves, then start to blame others, then we can move to sensing our own feelings and needs and then the needs of others. At this point we see ourselves as responsible for other people's feelings. We take criticisms of us personally and accept the other person's judgement. This inclines us toward a feeling of shame, guilt and depression.
Book a call Email me. But do we respond to these signals beneficially? He compassionately weaves science and spirituality together with 52 kriyas that help you transform emotional energy into evolutionary wisdom.
In the first stage, we are enslaved: Every relationship feels like a burden, as we carry the idea that we need to make everyone happy. We do not recognize, value or communicate our own needs clearly. We disregard the value of caring for another. Both stages 1 and 2 represent the classic teenage struggle, and the struggle of adults who never outgrew their adolescence. Stage three, emotional liberation, comes when we have learned to take responsibility for our own happiness, and we clearly express ourselves in a way that shows respect and concern for others. Our giving, at this stage, comes from a choice to be compassionate.